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Do you text a guy after getting home from a fabulous date to hint that you want to see him again? Maybe to tell him how awesome he is or hint at your schedule? My girlfriend says no, but I think a guy should know you liked him so he feels he can ask for a second date.

--Considerate

There are times when a guy knows better than to ask a woman for a second date, like when she ended the first one by throwing herself out of his car while it was still moving. Otherwise, a man doesn't need hand-holding and encouragement in the form of texts: "Here are all the dates I'm free through 2015. Also, I'm double-jointed. Pick me! Pick me!" When you like a guy, you tell him so during your date by seeming happy and engaged and thanking him for a great time at the end, which suggests you'd be amenable to another date without also suggesting that you're controlling and desperate. Just because we have all these fabulous high-tech ways of communicating doesn't mean we should always be quick to use them, tempting as it can be to help a man along to the thought, "Wow...what a wonderful helicopter mom she'll make someday."