You've Got Stale

I'm a woman who's been online dating for two years. I've noticed that people who've been on the dating site as long as I have often put up different pictures. By never changing my picture in two years, am I broadcasting that I'm a loser? I feel changing it seems more loserish, as in, "Hey, anyone want me from a different angle?"

--Still Here

Do you also suspect Banana Republic is going out of business every time they update their store windows? Changing your picture is a way to say "New and Improved!" -- a classic advertising gambit that seems to perk up sales despite everybody knowing it probably means "Toothpaste's largely the same, but check out the butterfly and sparklies we added to the package!" Keep in mind that research has shown that men are drawn to flirty, smiley shots of women, and common sense says to avoid cropping all your photos at the shoulders, as this leaves a little too much mystery about what shape the rest of you is in. Have fun while posing and you should seem like you're having fun putting yourself out there -- as opposed to having fears that the next man at your side will be the utility worker who discovers you sitting mummified on your couch.