Till Death Grip Do Us Part

My boyfriend of three months is independent and capable in his career, but is becoming increasingly clingy. He says he loves me at least once every 20 minutes and wants to snuggle constantly and have these endless phone conversations. Some things we can talk out. I explained that I'm not a big phone person, and he was fine with it, but the general clinginess remains. Will he get better as he feels more secure in our relationship?

--Chafing

Love is a beautiful thing -- when expressed sparingly. In your case, well, you'll always remember that time he turned to you and said those rare and magical words, "You know, I think your left front tire needs more air." Somebody who chirps "I love you" every 20 minutes most likely isn't expressing love but something emotionally lacking within them. ("I love you! I love you!" is a better sales tool than "Don't leave me! Don't leave me!") Chances are, it isn't the relationship the guy needs to get more comfortable in, but his own skin. If so, no amount of reassurance from you is going to cure him, although you might get him to loosen his grip by warning him that he's about to "love" you right out of his life. (Ideally, if two people are inseparable, it isn't because the firemen had a burning house to tend to before they could get over to pry them apart with the Jaws of Life.)