Snail Male

This woman I've been dating is smart, sweet, and kind in addition to being beautiful, but I feel we miss more than we click. It's like we almost connect but never fully do. I've finally admitted to myself that that's not enough. My only other girlfriends both cheated on me, so cutting the cord was easy. How do you break up with somebody who has done nothing wrong except seem kind of wrong?

--Procrastinator

When you need to break up with a woman, you'd think she'd at least have the decency to cheat on you, clean out your bank accounts, and hit kittens over the head with a two-by-four. As awful as it seems to pink-slip a girlfriend whose character flaws run the gamut from kindness to hotitude, what's really wrong is sticking around past the "ditch by" date. This just eats time -- maybe taking months or years off her biological shot clock. The right thing to do is to tell her you don't click as soon as you've figured that out. So, buck up and set this one free. And try to have some perspective. There are worse things you could do to a woman than tell her it's over -- such as faking your own death and turning up in Mexico five years later.