Queer And Present Danger

A gay guy from work invited me to his wedding, and I'm wondering how it will be different from a regular wedding. I don't want to say or do the wrong thing.

--A Man Who's Not Used To This Sort Of Thing

Gay marriage can take some getting used to. As Craig Kilborn put it, marriage has long been "a sacred union between a man and a pregnant woman." The truth is, a gay wedding is generally just slightly more gay than weddings already are, with all the ice sculptures, tiny foo-foo snacks on little silver trays, and ludicrous flower arrangements. Sure, the guys' gift registry might test your comfort level with a request for some bizarre item for their bedroom -- like a table lamp from Crate & Barrel. And, at the ceremony, you will probably be asked to participate in some weird rituals like toasting to the couple's happiness and eating cake. Beyond that, a gay wedding is "a regular wedding" in that two people in love are pledging to spend their lives together. They'll let you know, in subtle or direct ways, what to call them (husband and husband, partners, etc.). Otherwise, the usual wedding rules are in effect: Don't chew with your mouth open, take the liquor home with you, or try to grope the bride (should you spot one wandering down the highway on your way home).