Overthinking Of You

My fiance and I split up three months ago. Our relationship was serious and lovely, but we just weren't feeling it anymore. We are friendly and communicate frequently but avoid awkward topics -- like dating other people. We're in the same industry, and I would hate for someone to snap a picture of me and a date and put it on Facebook for him to stumble on. Wouldn't it be better if he learned I'm seeing somebody else from me, and vice versa?

--Tiptoeing Forward

Can't you just let him get his information about you the old-fashioned way, by sneaking over with a tall ladder and peering through your blinds? Dating other people after ending an engagement is an awkward topic -- which seems the perfect reason to continue to avoid discussing it with your now ex-fiance. But say somebody does snap a picture of you and a date and toss it up on Facebook. Unless your ex has only 12 Facebook friends or he's monitoring Facebook like a bald eagle hovering over a prairie rat, he might miss the photo. And even if he does see it, assuming it doesn't involve tongue, who's to say whether it's you and your next candidate for fiance or you and some guy who dropped by your office? Although you two "weren't feeling it anymore" and it's natural that you'd both be looking to feel it with other people, once you've loved somebody, you probably can't help but feel a little pang at the thought of them blithely falling into the arms of somebody else. So, maybe consider ambiguity a gift -- one that lets you believe the deadening silence between you is the sound of him in his garage building a drone camera to spy on your every move.