Mommy Dirtiest

Last week, my 25-year-old daughter's ex-boyfriend said hi to me in a bar, and one thing led to another, and we ended up in bed. I felt absolutely terrible about what happened, and then my daughter, out of the blue, announced that she's finally over him. In fact, she insisted she is. Is there any way I could keep seeing him, and if so, should I tell her?

--Don't Want To Lose My Daughter

A mother doesn't risk her relationship with her daughter for just anything. In your case, somebody has to say hi. (One wonders what you'd do for "Lovely weather we're having" or "Have a nice day.") If you care at all about your daughter, think hard about what creepy, narcissistic competitiveness led you to go home with her ex and how creepy you're still being, wondering how you might snag her okay to go back for seconds. Sure, your daughter said she's over the guy. And she could be -- more than anybody has ever been over anybody -- and still never get over hearing her mother say, "Oh, sweetie, I bumped into your ex...and then I ground into him for hours."