Lions And Tigers And Beers

My boyfriend goes out drinking with friends into the wee hours. I just ask that he call or text to let me know his plans so I don't lie awake worrying. Sometimes, he'll text "Be home in an hour," but he never is. Or, he'll come home early in the morning and just say "It was guys' night." I'm not afraid he's macking on girls, but that he'll get into trouble or get hurt. How can I deal with this sanely?

--Irate

Finally, a guy you can really count on -- to let you know he's okay when he stumbles through the front door at dawn and you hear the sound of glass breaking in your foyer. Is it unreasonable to want some sign he's still alive? Not at all. Just unreasonable to expect it from him. What if he's dead? Well, you won't get a phone call then, either. Not from him, anyway. Clearly, you pretty much stop existing for the guy until morning, after he sobers up at Taco Bell. Nagging won't change that. Threatening to leave or leaving might, but probably not for long. Either accept that he won't call or get out. As for your notion that he isn't macking on girls when he's out 'til sunup, it is possible that he just can't get enough of his hairy, drunken buddies: "Come on, Josh. We don't have to do anything. We can just lie there and cuddle."