Life Is A Gurney

I liked this guy I was dating until he started wanting to come over daily. When I said that was too much, he started using his son's illness (sickle cell anemia) as a reason he needed to see me. Last week, I learned he has several chronic diseases. I'm a single mother with twin girls suffering from mood disorders. I really don't have time or energy for two new sick people.

--Selfish?

The guy does have a lot to offer -- along the lines of "How 'bout I come over for a glass of wine and let you change my blood?" I can just hear him trying to smoothtalk himself into your bed: "I've fallen and I can't get up!" (Hmmm, that's not working?) "Okay, my son's also fallen!" This guy doesn't so much care about you as he cares about your meeting his needs. You owe your time and energy to your twins, not some dude who winked at you on infirmpeople.com. Beyond that, it's okay to want a man who'll take you away from your problems; a man who might sometimes ask you to put your nursie hat on for him -- but only when your Girl Scout uniform is at the cleaners.