Hitting Rocker Bottom

I have a crush on this really hot musician guy. I know he's trouble with a capital "T." He's super-charming, handsome, and promiscuous. (He's "slaying" on Tinder -- juggling women and getting lots of sex.) My plan is to become friends with him first -- as a prelude to becoming his girlfriend. I feel like that might give me some insurance against being one of the ones he just uses and tosses.

--Strategic

What a sweet person you are, trying to show this guy that there's more to life than Tinder-swiping his way to empty sex with a bunch of near strangers -- or, as he probably refers to it, sexual Disneyland. Women, especially, have a tendency to believe in the transformative power of their fabulousness. And sure, people do change -- when their life is no longer making them happy (or, in his case, thrilled, ecstatic, and out of his manhussy mind with joy). And though a man who feels emotionally attached to a woman is more likely to stick around after sex, he also has to be up for a relationship to begin with. In other words, by becoming this guy's friend first, yes, you could become a very special person in his life -- the woman he knows he can always drop in on when he can't find his phone charger.