Grope Springs Eternal

I've always been a sexual free spirit, but I'd like to get serious with this guy I've been dating. Is it ever good to tell a guy about other guys you've slept with recently or who are still nosing around? I think it might make a guy feel you're desirable and commit, but my guy friends say it's really off-putting.

--Just Wondering

For a woman, finding somebody to have sex with is about as hard as finding an Indian guy running a 7-Eleven. Yay, huh? Uh...except for how harshly women get judged for being "sexual free spirits." This comes out of what anthropologists call "paternity uncertainty" -- the fear men evolved to have that they'll be bringing home the bison to feed a kid who'll be passing on the genes of Mr. Monobrow in the next lean-to. So men take issue with women who get around, whereas for men, there's no such thing as "stud shaming." In other words, never tell who or how many. And by the way, some guys claim they'll be okay with knowing -- just before they start keeping you up all night with questions like "Was it recent?" "Was there overlap?" and "Was this BEFORE you got Lasik?" The reality is, a boyfriend will want to believe that your body is a temple -- and not the sort that's been an international tourist hot spot with a eunuch outside operating one of those little clickers.