Generation Text

I've been texting a lot with this guy for a few weeks, but he never calls me. We've been on a few dates that were really nice. My girlfriends tell me that if he really liked me, he'd call me. But one of my friends is about to get married, and their whole courtship was basically conducted via text. How important is the whole calling versus texting thing?

--Worried

Spoken-word telephone conversation does have its merits, like how you're unlikely to find yourself asking your grandma to send you a better photo of her penis. There's an assumption many women make that if a guy's only texting you and not calling you, he's not that into you. But context matters. Like whether "whassup gorjuss?" comes in at 1:17 a.m. or at 9:30 a.m. as you're riding the elevator up to work. And content especially matters -- in a guy's texts and when you're together. For example, on dates, is he looking into your eyes as you two talk for hours or looking into his phone as you stare into your napkin? In short, the medium is not the message. The message is the message -- like if someone's on the phone with you and simultaneously organizing his sock drawer, pondering a zit in the mirror, and bidding on a vintage beer sign on eBay: "Sorry, what was that about your childhood trauma?"