Foreplaying Hard To Get

I'm a woman just back in the dating game. I'd like to hold off on first date sex and get to know a guy before I sleep with him. But what are some deflector lines? "Not tonight, I have a headache"? "Sorry, but I'm storming the beaches of Normandy tomorrow"? I suppose a good line should come to mind, but I really can't think of anything to say beyond "Hey, what am I, your booty call?"

--Speechless

First date sex doesn't just happen, like, one minute you're looking for a little dish for the olive pit from your appetizer, and the next, you're in the guy's bed staring at the water stain on his ceiling. Intermediate steps include inviting your date up for a nightcap (which, to many men, loosely translates to "Would you like to come in and remove your pants?"). Resolve beforehand how far you'll go, and if the goodnight kiss at your door starts to turn into a goodnight grope, say something like "Hey, I'd rather take things a little slower." Although this remark lacks wit and historical references, it also lacks ambiguity and it'll get the job done far better than the strident "Hey, what am I, your booty call?" -- assuming your goal isn't making a man long to never call you again. If you're among the weak-willed, it's a good idea to wear protection, like 4,000 pounds of steel, rubber, and glass around you in the form of the car you drive to meet the guy for drinks. It's also wise to have something to do afterward so you only stay for an hour or two. Of course, meeting for a late-afternoon coffee may be wisest if drinking alcohol tends to correlate with your bra and panties flying off. Ideally, on the first date, if you find yourself sputtering "Really, I never do this..." it should be because the guy's overheard you asking the barista to violate your latte with two pumps of pumpkin.