Fools Rush Inn

I'm 50-something, as is this man I met at a meeting for a nonprofit. We exchanged some emails, and then he asked me out. The week before our date, he texted me, asking me to go on a several-day trip with him, and he clearly wasn't kidding. I found this inappropriate -- my return text made that clear -- and I nixed our date. He responded that he didn't want to be with anyone so touchy, who couldn't take him for who he is. Wouldn't any man in his right mind know this invitation was out of bounds?

--Apparently Touchy

A man can have a crazy thought fly into his head, like "We've emailed three times already. Let's spend 44 hours together in bed!" If he's in possession of the Adult Social Skills worksheet, he'll keep that thought parked in its thought hangar, predicting that a woman will answer as you did: "Don't mind if I don't." This guy might've had a shot with you if he'd immediately pulled back: "Sorry...a little rushed on my part. Gimme another chance." But, why would you want to take him for who he is -- a guy who screws up and then hurls blame at you instead of taking responsibility? I mean, come on -- for a woman who isn't 22 and really impulsive or a needy mess, a weekend getaway invite from some man she talked to at a meeting is probably about as tempting as "So...deserted country road at 8? I'll be the guy carrying the rope coil and the duct tape."