Flat Attire

How about my date this past Saturday? He has the potential to be really cute, but I absolutely despise his bland style. How do you approach making someone over?

--Bothered

Does that someone need a new shirt or a new head? Once you have a bit of a relationship with a guy, you can flatter him into a better shirt. ("You know, that Cosby sweater would look so much more attractive in the dumpster!") But, on a first date, if you're obsessed with tearing a guy's clothes off, it should be because you want to see him naked, and not just for that brief moment before he gets into something that meets your dress code. It's possible you aren't ready for a relationship, so no guy is right for you -- or you're so desperate for a relationship that you'll take any guy, then try to turn him into a guy you really want. People say style is a superficial thing -- and it is, unless it's a big deal to you. Ultimately, it isn't going to work with a guy if your first date fantasy is "You'd be so perfect...if only we lived in a world of total darkness" ("Once you go pitch black, you never go back").