Edgar Allan Repo

The guy I'm seeing revealed that he is hesitant to get into a relationship because it means "taking responsibility" for another person on a level you don't have to when you're just friends with benefits. In his words: "I mean, what if you got cancer?" He wants the friendship and connection of a relationship, but he inevitably fails to step up and women bail. (What a surprise.) He did have a three-year relationship in the past, and I really like him. Should I stick around and hope he calms down?

--Unsure

Here's a guy who will have your back -- getting smaller and smaller in his rearview mirror at the first sign of a serious problem, such as a bad hangnail. Sadly, it isn't enough to "really like" a guy. You need to really like a guy who's prepared to respond to your needs with loving concern instead of burning rubber. And in keeping with this unfortunate automotive theme, assessing a guy's boyfriendability should be approached like selling cars. The successful car salesman will not spend his morning singing the praises of heated seats and in-car Wi-Fi to the customer wearing a blanket and cardboard sandals. That guy sure could use a car, just as your guy sure could use the "friendship and connection" (and, no doubt, the sex) of a relationship, but neither will be able to make the required payments. So, yes, waiting and hoping this guy "calms down" is an option -- but you'd probably have better luck waiting for the brown bird outside your window to turn into a UPS driver.