Custer's Last Nightstand

My boyfriend still shares a weekend/vacation house with his ex-wife. He just framed a photo of me and put it on the nightstand next to his bed, the spot where he previously put unimportant photos -- ones of his dogs and trips with college friends. All the photos of his family members (and of his now-ex-wife) are along the stairway. Should I say something?

--Hurting

Are the throw pillows plotting against you? Has his trash been talking trash about you again? It seems you're a Couch Whisperer, blessed with the rare gift for understanding the secret language of household objects. You know better than to find it sweet that your picture is the last thing the guy'll look at before he falls asleep and the first thing he'll see upon waking up. If he really loved you, he'd have his ex's picture on his nightstand and stick yours between fat dead Uncle Joe and the fishing picture of his pimply cousins. Or, better yet, he could just forget that the house is a shared space -- shared with his ex-wife -- and post a picture of her replacement over the fireplace. Should you say something? Absolutely...to a therapist, before your toxic fear and festering insecurity drive your boyfriend to relocate your photo to a place many will see it -- if they remove the note taped over your face reading, "Yard Sale, everything on this table 50 cents or less."