Chummy Ache

My boyfriend of three years wants to have single female friends and says I can have single male ones. I don't need single guy friends, but feel opposite sex friends are fine if we see them as a couple. Isn't that how it should work?

--Chafing

Unless your boyfriend's a German shepherd or an unruly 3-year-old, you don't get to keep him on a leash. If you're insecure, work on getting more secure. If you don't trust him, don't be with him. But, any grown man who isn't doing time should be allowed to meet, unsupervised, with any person of his choosing. You can't fulfill your boyfriend's every need, and he's going to relate differently one on one than he does three on one. The couple that shares everything and everyone...bores each other unconscious. You'll know you're in trouble when you feel dumb saying "Guess what, honey!" knowing there's no guessing needed by a man who's spent three years bolted to your side -- not just trying to keep from finishing your sentences, but trying to keep from starting them, too.