Braggedy Andy

I'm dating this guy. We aren't committed, but I'd like us to be. Recently, he's been mentioning chicks who want to sleep with him whom he shut down. I appreciate his honesty, but I guess I'm wondering why he's telling me this stuff at all.

--Earful

There's being open and honest, and then there's bragging about your sexual options, which is the mark of a mantoddler: "Mommy, Mommy, look at the sex fort I'm making!" The guy's spirit animal appears to be the trash can with the swinging lip. He either wants you to like him more or he is warning you that you like him too much. Time will tell. Meanwhile, just sitting there blinking as he rattles on about his harem-in-waiting doesn't make you seem cool and easygoing; it makes you seem cool with disrespect. In other words, you actually need to say no to knowing. This doesn't take some long, icky speech. Just a slightly singsongy "Overshare!" And if he doesn't quite get it, maybe add, "Fascinating...but unless I'll be needing a penicillin nightcap, TMI." Assuming he listens and stops and is generally attentive to your feelings, you probably shouldn't fixate on this. Even the sweetest guy may say things he doesn't quite think through -- to the point where a girl's sometimes got to ask for tech support: "Hi...sorry, but I couldn't find this in your FAQs. How do I log out of your penis's news ticker?"