All's Ferret In Love And War

Throughout my three years with my boyfriend, he's been less than faithful. Two years ago, he told me he met "a cool girl" while out of town. He claimed nothing had happened but good conversation. They're Facebook friends, and I have an overwhelming urge to message her and ask for the truth. This would give me the resolution I need.

--Agonizing

Facebook is just the place to find answers to all of life's big questions: Which Pokemon character are you? What color gummy bear? How long would you survive a zombie apocalypse? And then, are you one of the skanks my boyfriend cheated on me with? You could ask this woman that last question -- ideally, in somewhat more polite language -- but even if she writes you back (and maybe even truthfully), what could she tell you that you don't already know? Your boyfriend is a cheater. Cheaters cheat. Unless he's given you reason to believe he's mended his ways, the person you should be asking questions of is yourself: Is my relationship making me happy? If not, why am I still here? Tempting as it is to focus on confirming your suspicions, wouldn't real resolution be getting into a relationship where you don't have them? Then you could go back to using Facebook like so many people do -- to have an hourly window into how wildly dull their friends are, and yet how intent they are to communicate it: "I'm cheating on Cheerios with oatmeal!!!!!" Well, that does beat yesterday's "I'm having my breakfast...mmmm."