A Mitey Love

I'm 5'8"; my fiance is just at 5'7". I'm only comfortable when he wears lifts, especially if I'm wearing heels. It may not seem like a big height difference, but when he doesn't wear them, he feels like my son. I know they're uncomfortable, and he sometimes doesn't feel up to wearing them. Mostly, though, he won't let me see him without them, because he knows I'm way more attracted to him when he's a tad taller. I feel bad about this, and I've prayed that one day, my strong love for him will let me ignore this minor "flaw."

--Trying To Get Above It

The dream was tall, dark, and handsome. Not elfish, dark, and handsome. Still, the problem here could be seen another way: You need to be shorter. Unfortunately, accomplishing that is the less practical solution, as it would require a saw. It might help to understand that you want him to be taller not because you're a bad person but because you're a product of human evolution. In our ancestral past, height in a man likely had mating and survival advantages. (The short caveman would have been less able to reach the lion with his spear: "Take that, you big meanie!") As for what to do in the present, elevator shoes might be the solution you're both looking for. While lifts are inserts stuck into the shoe, mainly raising the heel, elevator shoes, which can be custom-made by a podiatrist, have a hidden platform built in throughout the shoe. The latest models are cleverly designed and appear to be normal footwear. This means that a man needn't suffer the discomfort of tromping around in heels just to be attractive to his partner. (Next thing you know, he'll be complaining about the scratchy red lace and underwire digging into his flesh.)